On 2015: A Year In Review

On 2015: A Year In Review

I'm not really one for big New Years Eve parties, and to be honest I hope to spend the night at home with a couple of my besties watching Madonna movies and drinking Sailor Jerry's in my pyjamas.

But before any of that happens, I like to spend some time reflecting on the year that was. I think that this is really important, because it's really easy to just allow the days to float on by with indifference, but when I stop and take stock I'm always struck by just how much has happened.

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On Why I Called My Brand 'Rad Bitch'

On Why I Called My Brand 'Rad Bitch'

Rad Bitch is about supporting women to empower themselves, to own their voices, stand up for themselves and express their views with confidence.

Rad Bitch is inspired by the incredible, radical women who have, and do stand up together to carve out space for us to speak up and shine in our own ways.

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On The Artful Business Conference 2015

On The Artful Business Conference 2015

Thank you so much to everyone who has made Artful 2015 so awesome! Thank you for the hugs, the high fives, the inspiration and encouragement, the thoughts, tears and the belly laughs. I appreciate everything we shared and learned together over the last two days.

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On Contributing to the Conversation About Feminism

On Contributing to the Conversation About Feminism

Over the last month or so, there have been a bunch of things happening in what you might generally describe as "Progressive Spaces" created by people who consider themselves to be free thinking and open minded. Some of it great, some of it problematic, and some of it down right disgusting - from all sides.

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On Egos, Coaches, and Amazing Communities

On Egos, Coaches, and Amazing Communities

I want to point out that being described as an "It Girl" is absolutely the last thing I ever imagined would happen to me - not just because I've always been part of the weird Art Crowd, or because of my birthmark, but because I'm actually fairly awkward, and a total dork most of the time - and these are part of what I love about who I am.

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A Rad Bitch Pyjama Party

Photo on 2014-11-02 at 13.42 #2 Holy Crap! Thank you for such a fantastic response to A Rad Bitch Re-Boot!! On Monday, I shared with you all about my new One on One Coaching Package, A Rad Bitch Re-Boot, and I have to say, I've been totally blown away by the comments and response I've received since!

To celebrate the launch (as well as my love of chocolate!), I'm inviting you all to join me for A Rad Bitch Pyjama Party over on Google Hang Outs this coming Monday night.

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I'll be sharing some of my own story, and letting you in on:

  • What I've successfully achieved over the last 12 months, 
  • How I've done it, 

and more importantly, 

  • How YOU can reach your goals too!

I'll share how investing in further training and one-on-one coaching have genuinely shifted my reality and opened up a whole host of new friendships and opportunities that I never would have encountered otherwise!

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By the end of the night, you'll have learned:

  • How to create clarity around your skills, passions and dreams to finally take action towards them.
  • How to build the confidence that you have something totally valuable to share with the world - even when that bitchy little voice in your head is trying to distract you and fill your head with noise and negativity.
  • How to maintain motivation and keep on moving forward when everything feels overwhelming and as if you're not getting anywhere.
  • The value of collaborating and seeking support - especially when it comes to holding yourself accountable and actually get shit done!

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The Hang Out is going to be a super fun opportunity for us to connect across state lines and international borders, in real time - and you'll have the chance to ask me any burning questions you may have.

Being Easter Monday, if you have any left over, bring your festive novelty shaped chocolates, a mug of hot chocolate, a blanket and your favourite notebook.

A Rad Bitch Pyjama Party Google Hang Out Details!

Time: 8.30 - 9.30 PM AEST Date: Monday 6th April Where: HERE How: Click on the link above just before 8.30 PM and I'll meet you there!

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If you have any questions, or anything in particular you'd like me to cover, please feel free to let me know ahead of time by commenting below.

If you'd like to schedule in a complimentary 30 Minute Virtual Coffee Date to see if coaching with me is right for you, please click HERE and I'll be in touch within 24 Hours.

I can't wait to speak with you on Monday night!

xx

Kym.

On Cult Films and Cat Fights

In my last post I made a passing mention of the cult classic 80's film, 'Heathers' - purely in reference to the fact that I'd been playing croquet at a picnic over the weekend, and to be honest, it's been on my mind ever since. It turned out that nobody else at the picnic had seen Heathers before, so I gave a super brief, non-spoiling description to the interested guests that, "It was a cult 80's high school film starring Winona Ryder and featured heavy doses of dark humour".

The comparison was immediately drawn between it and 'Jawbreaker', a film which I remember watching on VHS when I was still in the early years of high school, and starred Rose McGowan and featured a cameo appearance her then boyfriend Marilyn Manson. For the record, I really enjoyed this film when I was young - and I'm a little tempted to give it, and 'The Craft' another viewing - just for shits and giggles and "old times sake".

Anyway, this all got me thinking about pop culture references to Girl Gangs - particularly in the films I grew up watching - and the interactions between female characters in them, and I was struck by how overwhelmingly negative the relationships were.

In pretty much all of them, there's backstabbing bitchiness, competition over boys, perfectionism, idealised superficial beauty - and murderous cat fighting.

Even if I think back to stuff I watched as a kid - 'The Addams Family Values', 'Daria', and the relationship between Darlene and Becky in 'Roseanne' - the sarcasm, snark and straight-up resentment that played out between these fictional girls, was intense! And yes, I totally identified with the "odd-girl out" in all of these examples.

About the only examples I could think of which featured solid Girl Gangs, were 'Now & Then', and 'The Baby-Sitters Club', which was originally a book series (books that I devoured copies of faster than my Mum could bring the next one home from the Second Hand Book Shop) before being made into a film. The fact that I grew up and became a Nanny, is no freaking coincidence when you think about this.

This isn't just limited to films intended for teen audiences ('Bridesmaids' is a good example of this), although it's super prevalent in the whole high school film genre.

In reality, most female relationships are not this fraught - and for the most part, these films are a great excuse to hang out on the couch in your PJ's with your own Girl Gang, eat pop corn and laugh at the absurdity of it all. Yet the overwhelming message in most of these instances, is that as girls, we are automatically and intrinsically pitted against one another and will fight to the death.

There's rarely any real, deep learning - let alone genuine self-acceptance that takes place by the final act of the film, and whatever "feel-good" message we end up with, is usually pretty generic and superficially blase. I could very easily get into a rant about how this is all because patriarchy is still a thing, but that's not really the point of why I wanted to write this post.

I suppose I've been thinking about this sort of thing a lot more recently - especially since I created The Rad Bitch Girl Gang. Although in truth, I've probably been thinking about this - at least on a personal level, since I started on this whole adventure of rebuilding my own world over the last few years - because my focus is on creating positive, supportive relationships and safe spaces which encourage and facilitate growth.

So as not to sugar-coat stuff, I've definitely had my share of falling-outs with girlfriends, and regrettably have dished out as much Girl-on-Girl negativity as I've copped over the years, but it's a pattern I've worked damn hard to recognise, repair, to change and improve upon.

One thing I have DEFINITELY recognised over the years, is that I am far more likely to treat others well, and to feel confident in my relationships when I'm feeling confident and comfortable within myself.

I believe that there are three sides to this:

  • First of all, we have to do the work to create our own genuine sense of self confidence.
  • Secondly, there's the Karmic side - What you put out into the world comes back unto you.
  • And thirdly, I wholeheartedly believe that we teach others how we to be treated through how we treat ourselves.

As much as I think it would be cool to have a well known pop-culture reference to point out as an example, and confidently say, "YES! THIS!! This is exactly how my Girl Gang feels!" I honestly can't think of one - yet! So, in the meantime, I suppose I'm working to create what I hope to see more of in the world - groups of amazing girls and women who treat themselves and one another beautifully.

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I'm proud of the fact that The Girl Gang is a safe space for many of The Rad Bitches to share and support one another, and I'm proud to know some incredible women who are working to empower women in ways that will seriously change the world.

Remember, each of us is enough as we are.

There is enough in the world for each of us.

xx

Kym

PS: '10 Things I Hate About You' will probably ALWAYS be my favourite high school movie, ever.

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