It's cold as heck outside in Melbourne this weekend - the perfect weather for staying indoors and catching up on a whole dose of internet.
Here's what I've been reading and listening to recently.
My friend Penny recently wrote this piece for SBS Sexuality about struggling with internalised bi-erasure, and trying to figure out how and where she fits in the LGBTIQ+ community when she's not in a same-sex relationship.
This is something I've been pretty conscious of in myself - especially during the lead up to the national postal survey on Marriage Equality in Australia. Trying to determine how relevant my voice was, wanting to amplify the voices of others instead of my own and not over-step the bounds of the privilege I enjoy in a straight relationship was real. Penny's words reflect a lot of my own thoughts and feelings, and I definitely recommend reading this piece.
I've been listening to The Trauma Cleaner on Audible over the past week, and this is an exceptional book and I've pretty much been recommending it left and right. It's a beautifully gut-wrenching biography that not only charts the life of trauma cleaner Sandra Pankhurst, but in doing so covers the history of the gay scene in Melbourne; the lived realities of sex workers; and the rights of transgender people in Australia.
The story of a dog who pays for treats using leaves, and the store attendant working to avoid leafy inflation.
Back in the days when I still listened to Triple J (or the radio), I made no secret of how much I hoped that Myf and Zan could just take over and host every show, While that dream never came true, we've been blessed with something even more pure - the Bang On podcast.
'Bang On brings together two of ABC Radio’s most respected and most loved music journalists and presenters – who are also great friends, with your one stop shop for all the conversations you need to be across this week (but just don’t have the time to read a think-piece about).'
Complete with singing, musical interludes, giggles, and faarshion news updates, it's everything I could have hoped for back in my radio listening days.
It's ‘Vascular Birthmark Awareness Month’, and I want to take this opportunity to bring your awareness to the fact that I was (and still am) cute as heck and happy as pie - hemangioma and all.
At two years old, my strawberry mark was near it’s reddest and most swollen.
It was still impacting my ability to swallow food, and to breathe through my nose (I really only got the hang of that in my teens, and I still tend to breathe through my mouth by habit), so I still had a feeding tube at this stage.
Birthmarks are cute.
Facial differences aren’t bad or scary.
Some of the ways they can impact our lives probably don’t seem that fun.
Tbh I don’t remember having a feeding tube (I do remember the hospital stay when it was removed 8 months after this photo was taken), but I sure do love the second bellybutton I have as a result!
* I think VBM awareness month is only a US thing, but I’m jumping on board.
It's worth hopping over to Instagram where Crystal Hodges is drawing a portrait of a person with a Vascular Birth Mark every day for the whole month of May.
I also plan on sharing a few posts throughout the month, too!
Since the 17th century, self-improvement schemes have reliably been rooted in the belief that weak individual will — not social malaise or structural inequality — is at the heart of all problems, from poverty to extra pounds to sickness to sexual assault. It’s called self-help for a reason, and taken too far, this ethos can tend toward solipsism at the expense of social change.
So more people are playing D&D than ever before, but so are more types of people. Women now make up close to 40% of the D&D community. While the goal is still for that number to fully reflect the wider population, it’s a huge leap from 2012, when women made up 20–25% of players.
A big reason for that jump in female players goes back to the popularity of streaming, and the visibility of other women playing. Women have a huge presence in the D&D being streamed online, and the team at Wizards of the Coast has no doubt that the representation that provides has had an impact on women feeling more confident walking into their local game store.