On Why I Believe in What I Do

A recent selfie with my hair flipped to show off more of the left-hand side of my face than I'm usually comfortable with. Yes, the Emo Fringe was perfect for me as a late teen. 

A recent selfie with my hair flipped to show off more of the left-hand side of my face than I'm usually comfortable with. Yes, the Emo Fringe was perfect for me as a late teen. 

So, I realise that I've been incredibly quiet I the blog of late!

I recently traveled to Sydney to meet and work with some of the powerful women I've had the good fortune to meet over the last year. I spent an entire weekend away from The Kitteh Palace, and while I missed home, it was AMAZING!

Not only did I get to host a Self Care Revolution Workshop on Circular Quay, but I spent a full day masterminding in person with a small group of women, led by Sarah Liddle and Dr. Cate Cole. I'm not going to lie, these are two women who I SERIOUSLY look up to as mentors, they're strong, sensitive, and damn they know their shit. 

 

Tess Philip, Rebecca Grainger from The Edit Hub, Me, Sarah Liddle, Dr. Cate Cole, and Heather Lynn at 'The Art of Business and The Craft of Coaching' Workshop in Sydney. Photo Credit: Sarah Liddle

Tess Philip, Rebecca Grainger from The Edit Hub, Me, Sarah Liddle, Dr. Cate Cole, and Heather Lynn at 'The Art of Business and The Craft of Coaching' Workshop in Sydney.

Photo Credit: Sarah Liddle

I came home with more of an idea about who I work with, and how I want to support them, but I still wasn't entirely sure on how to connect with them. 

I knew that supporting women to empower themselves through real and unique self care practices was something I wholeheartedly believe is important.

I knew that this was something I believe is essential for mums, and mums to be, so that they are equipped to raise strong and confident children.

I'd even figured out that I'm comfortable speaking to women who are, or desire to be parents, and I'd finally accepted that I can do this without needing to be a mum - or wanting to be a mum myself!

But what I didn't know, was how to talk about all of this, as well as mental health, and growing up with a birthmark which not only covered most of my face, but was described by medical staff as, I shit you not, "grotesque". 

Now, like all good epiphanies and huge dreams, this one requires a Kymmy story.

Back in July I shared a #nomakeupselfie on Instagram as part of Gala Darling's 'Radical Self Love July' photo challenge, and decided to tag my birthmarks and talk about them in the comments section, and lately I've been thinking about how much my strawberry marks are a big part of my WHY.

So, I've been thinking about Elle's tip to think about "What REALLY pisses you off".

Early this morning, I shared on my personal Facebook profile about how one of the first mums who got in touch with me when I shared my #nomakeupselfie, today found her #brave and shared the first unedited photo of her daughters birthmark on Instagram, and that she thanked me for inspiring her. I was literally in tears reading her comments (and was almost late to work as a result).

Not only that, but she wrote a blog about it, too!!!

So back to "What really pisses me off" and WHY I believe in building a coaching business which educates about why self-care and self confidence and truly loving ourselves as women is so important, and how that fits into talking about my experience of my birthmark.

What pisses me off?

It pisses me off that parents are so afraid of other people judging them and their children, that they are determined to physically alter their child's appearance through medication and painful procedures like laser surgery.

It pisses me off that there is real fucking business in this.

There is business in this because parents aren't giving themselves the love they need to be filled with to embrace their babies uniqueness, in order to teach their babies to be strong and confident and to feel beautiful exactly as they are - regardless of whether their birthmarks fade away or not.

It pisses me off that parents are too afraid of the potential of their kids getting bullied that they will literally buy into this, rather than teaching their kids to love themselves and feel confident enough to be the most genuine kid on the playground who won't bully other kids themselves.

Yes, bullying sucks (trust me, I know), but I think the reality is that kids learn how to navigate these situations with the right kind of support - AND that bullying can and does happen regardless of whether a kid has a birthmark or not.

My huge dream is to change this.

I want more parents to find their brave and feel confident in allowing their friends and relatives - and strangers to see their gorgeous happy babies.

I want ALL babies (whether they have birthmarks or not) to grow to feel confident and proud of the bodies they call home, to feel beautiful, and loved, and happy.

I want to see a generation of school kids who are generous, and empathetic, and who act from a place of love, compassion and curiosity, rather than fear.

I want to be a part of creating this change.

I believe that this change starts with THIS generation - the amazing women who are becoming, or are parents, learning to love themselves completely, so they're raising their children in an environment of total self acceptance.

I want to shift the world out of limiting, and false beauty standards which not only keep us living in fear and shame in ourselves - but that breed fear and competition amongst women. I want us to be able to move beyond the overwhelming idea that our value is determined by the men in our lives, or by the supposedly finite amount of affection, money, opportunity, and attention they can afford to toss our way if we're deemed to be enough.

I want us to inherently KNOW that we ARE MORE THAN ENOUGH!

We are worthy of feeling loved and safe and beautiful and everything we desire because we damn well are!

I want us to OWN THAT SHIT, and EMBODY IT in every way, so that when other women see us, they don't snicker behind our backs or feel the need to make jealous gossip about how we got to where we are - I want us to shine so fucking bright that others can't help but be lit up by us.